What would you enjoy doing with your children?
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Girls Night Out
I purchased Miley Cyrus tickets back in...July for a show in Chicago last week. My goal was to surprise my daughter and her best friend by keeping it a secret until the day of the concert. As hard as it was, I made it to the day of the concert. My daughter SCREAMED with excitement when I told her to get dressed so we could go to the concert,she got even more "7 year old crazy girl acting" when we pulled in front of her best friends house to pick her up also. We had 3rd balcony seats and Miley was a dot on the stage but the girls behaved as though we had front row seats. They sang, they danced, they screamed....but most of all my girlfriend and I got to bond with our girls and have a GNO (girls night out)together. At one point during the concert, my daughter looked at me while we were both singing along with Miley and dancing and said "mom, I didn't know that you could have so much fun"...WOW....we need to take time with our kids to have fun together a little more often...play time, silly time, whatever it is..just time together doing something that everyone enjoys! Take time and have a GNO!
What would you enjoy doing with your children?
What would you enjoy doing with your children?
Friday, October 30, 2009
Blueberry Crumble
I was excited when fellow blogger, InnerHOTmama asked me to write a guest post for her for Foodie Friday. Thanks so much, Angel for inviting me!
Blueberries are a fruit that I bake with alot. My boys love them and they are really good for you too.
Today, I’m sharing my Blueberry Crumble recipe.
Ingredients:
1/2 c. Butter
2 c. Flour
1 1/2 t. Baking Powder
1/2 t. Salt
3/4 c. Sugar
1 Egg
1 t. Vanilla
1/2 c. Milk
5 c. Blueberries, Fresh or Frozen
1 t. Cinnamon
2 t. Ground Nutmeg
1/4 t. Salt
1/4 c. Brown Sugar
1 c. Flour
6 T. Butter, at room temperature
Directions:
Sift flour, baking powder and salt. Set aside. Cream butter and sugar until fluffy, about 3-4 min. Add egg and vanilla. Alternately add flour mixture and milk. Gently fold in berries. Pour batter into prepared square baking dish, sprinkle with crumb topping. Bake at 350 for about 1 hour or until toothpick comes out clean.
Liz Latham
HME of http://hoosierhomemade.com/
Foodie Friday Guest Blogger: Hidden Pumpkin Cupcakes
From our friend Gretchen. She is a busy working mom with both home-grown children and a lovely girl born in Ethiopia. She is raising healthy/happy children and has a surprisingly healthy cupcake recipe that both kids and grown-ups will love. I thought it would be perfect for Halloween!
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Hidden Pumpkin Cupcakes
1 cake mix (I like Devil's Food best)
1 cup canned pumpkin
1 cup water
1/2 cup mini chocolate chips
Mix together and pour into greased or papered cupcake pan. Bake @350 for about 20 minutes. Top with FF Cool Whip. I can usually get 24 medium cupcakes or 12 giant ones.
Medium cupcakes are 2 Weight Watcher pts.
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Experiment with this quick and easy recipe. I think Spice cake mix with butterscotch chips instead of the chocolate chips would be fantastic. Hmm, I might just have to make some this weekend.
Happy Halloween everyone!
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Hidden Pumpkin Cupcakes
1 cake mix (I like Devil's Food best)
1 cup canned pumpkin
1 cup water
1/2 cup mini chocolate chips
Mix together and pour into greased or papered cupcake pan. Bake @350 for about 20 minutes. Top with FF Cool Whip. I can usually get 24 medium cupcakes or 12 giant ones.
Medium cupcakes are 2 Weight Watcher pts.
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Experiment with this quick and easy recipe. I think Spice cake mix with butterscotch chips instead of the chocolate chips would be fantastic. Hmm, I might just have to make some this weekend.
Happy Halloween everyone!
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Wellness Wednesday: be a Mover & a Shaker!
Getting and staying in shape with kids is a struggle. It reminds me of when grandparents tell the "when I was your age I walked to school 4 miles, barefoot, uphill both ways, and still had energy to help with chores when I came home in the afternoon!" story. We try to eat right, but convenience usually gets in the way. We try to exercise but time usually gets in the way. We have every intention of being good to our bodies but there always seems to be a stumbling block in our path.
Last week I started TRYING to get healthy again: I started walking, with my son. Sam is almost 14 months old and is still a good stroller napper so I figure I should take this chance while I have it. I go home at night, change, and take Sam out for 4-6 miles while Dad has some "ME" time of his own. I get time with Sam...it's a win-win for everyone. I logged 22 miles, by walking a couple miles for five of the seven days last week. I was shocked! Who knew an hour here and an hour there could equal 22 miles???
On rainy days (which we have in abundance this time of year in Chicago!) we have family dance party! This is when we put on music or one of Sam's music kids shows and we ALL dance. We dance fast, we dance slow. But we really, really move. Sam can shake it with the best of them, so we repeat his moves or show him a new one and he tries it out. It's always loads of fun, and great together time. It may only last 15-20 minutes, or may go on for 45, depending upon everyone's energy level. We started it to get Sam tired for bed...but it usually just exhausts US.
I'm learning that I MUST take time for fitness. Pressed for time? No problem: you don't need a gym to be healthy. Get up and dance with your kids. Or walk with your kids. Or walk with your kids in the stroller. Or play soccer in the back yard. Or ANYTHING. Just get up and MOVE!
What are you doing/can you do to add more fitness into your days?
Last week I started TRYING to get healthy again: I started walking, with my son. Sam is almost 14 months old and is still a good stroller napper so I figure I should take this chance while I have it. I go home at night, change, and take Sam out for 4-6 miles while Dad has some "ME" time of his own. I get time with Sam...it's a win-win for everyone. I logged 22 miles, by walking a couple miles for five of the seven days last week. I was shocked! Who knew an hour here and an hour there could equal 22 miles???
On rainy days (which we have in abundance this time of year in Chicago!) we have family dance party! This is when we put on music or one of Sam's music kids shows and we ALL dance. We dance fast, we dance slow. But we really, really move. Sam can shake it with the best of them, so we repeat his moves or show him a new one and he tries it out. It's always loads of fun, and great together time. It may only last 15-20 minutes, or may go on for 45, depending upon everyone's energy level. We started it to get Sam tired for bed...but it usually just exhausts US.
I'm learning that I MUST take time for fitness. Pressed for time? No problem: you don't need a gym to be healthy. Get up and dance with your kids. Or walk with your kids. Or walk with your kids in the stroller. Or play soccer in the back yard. Or ANYTHING. Just get up and MOVE!
What are you doing/can you do to add more fitness into your days?
Monday, October 26, 2009
The Chopping Block
For todays "ME Monday" I thought I'd tell you about how my girlfriend and I took a little time out for ourselves last Friday. A month or so ago we booked a Bread Making class for ourselves in Chicago during the day while our children are at school. Little did we know that a field trip was scheduled for this same day to the Pumpkin Patch for our 4 year olds. Here comes the GUILT. We both felt quite a bit guilty for not volunteering to chaperone but also wanted to take some time for ourselves.
Friday was a rainy cold day and when we dropped the kids off at school we found out at the Field Trip was cancelled, WHEW..guilt be gone. Our cooking class was at The Chopping Block in Lincoln Square. There where only 5 of us in the class plus our instructor. We made wonderful poppyseed and sesame seed bagels, Focaccia Bread with with Rosemary, Goat Cheese and Sundried Tomatoes, and Whole Wheat Dinner Rolls....all with our hands and all from scratch. First I must say, that their kitchen setup is AMAZING as well as all of their gadgets. Our class was scheduled for 10-12:30 and I think we finished up at about 1:00. We learned alot about making breads and the science behind it but more than anything we were in the MOMENT. It was such an enjoyable experience: the feel of the dough between your fingers, the smell of the breads baking, seeing the finished products...a very peaceful experience. Oh, and did I mention that you get to bring everything you made HOME!!! YUM....
Our children didn't even know that we took time for ourselves and the laundry and everything else was still waiting when we got home!
If you enjoy cooking, take a class!Freshen up on your skills or learn new ones, take the time for yourself!
What are you doing for yourself on this ME Monday?
Friday was a rainy cold day and when we dropped the kids off at school we found out at the Field Trip was cancelled, WHEW..guilt be gone. Our cooking class was at The Chopping Block in Lincoln Square. There where only 5 of us in the class plus our instructor. We made wonderful poppyseed and sesame seed bagels, Focaccia Bread with with Rosemary, Goat Cheese and Sundried Tomatoes, and Whole Wheat Dinner Rolls....all with our hands and all from scratch. First I must say, that their kitchen setup is AMAZING as well as all of their gadgets. Our class was scheduled for 10-12:30 and I think we finished up at about 1:00. We learned alot about making breads and the science behind it but more than anything we were in the MOMENT. It was such an enjoyable experience: the feel of the dough between your fingers, the smell of the breads baking, seeing the finished products...a very peaceful experience. Oh, and did I mention that you get to bring everything you made HOME!!! YUM....
Our children didn't even know that we took time for ourselves and the laundry and everything else was still waiting when we got home!
If you enjoy cooking, take a class!Freshen up on your skills or learn new ones, take the time for yourself!
What are you doing for yourself on this ME Monday?
Friday, October 23, 2009
Foodie Friday Guest blogger: Angel Hair Pasta wth Shrimp
Many thanks to Liz for sending this recipe from Dreamfields! Please check out her blog for moms of older kids here You can always substitute Chicken or tofu for the shrimp! Happy Friday!
Ingredients:
1/2 of a box uncooked Dreamfields Angel Hair
2 tablespoons olive oil, divided
1 pound large raw shrimp, peeled and deveined
4 cloves garlic, chopped
1/4 to 1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
1 can (28 ounces) Italian-style diced tomatoes, undrained
1/2 cup dry white wine
1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley
1/4 cup chopped fresh basil
3 tablespoons freshly grated Parmesan cheese
Chopped basil (optional)
Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper
Directions:
1.Cook pasta according to package directions; drain and return to pan.
2.Meanwhile, heat olive oil in large skillet over medium-high heat. Add shrimp; cook 3 to 5 minutes, until cooked through. Add garlic and crushed red pepper flakes; cook until garlic is tender, about 1 minute, stirring constantly. (Do not let garlic burn.) Remove shrimp from skillet; set aside.
3.Stir tomatoes, wine, parsley and basil into skillet. Continue cooking until liquid is reduced by half, about 5 to 8 minutes, stirring occasionally. Add shrimp and pasta to skillet. Continue cooking just to heat through, stirring occasionally. Sprinkle with Parmesan cheese and additional chopped basil, if desired. Season with salt and pepper as desired.
Makes 4 to 6 servings.
Nutrition information (1/4 of recipe): 461 calories; 33 g protein;
18 g digestible carbohydrates*; 13 g total fat; 2 g saturated fat; 225 mg cholesterol;
776 mg sodium; 6 g total dietary fiber.
*If traditional pasta is used in this recipe there is a total of 48 g carbohydrate. For more information go to http://www.dreamfieldsfoods.com/
Ingredients:
1/2 of a box uncooked Dreamfields Angel Hair
2 tablespoons olive oil, divided
1 pound large raw shrimp, peeled and deveined
4 cloves garlic, chopped
1/4 to 1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
1 can (28 ounces) Italian-style diced tomatoes, undrained
1/2 cup dry white wine
1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley
1/4 cup chopped fresh basil
3 tablespoons freshly grated Parmesan cheese
Chopped basil (optional)
Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper
Directions:
1.Cook pasta according to package directions; drain and return to pan.
2.Meanwhile, heat olive oil in large skillet over medium-high heat. Add shrimp; cook 3 to 5 minutes, until cooked through. Add garlic and crushed red pepper flakes; cook until garlic is tender, about 1 minute, stirring constantly. (Do not let garlic burn.) Remove shrimp from skillet; set aside.
3.Stir tomatoes, wine, parsley and basil into skillet. Continue cooking until liquid is reduced by half, about 5 to 8 minutes, stirring occasionally. Add shrimp and pasta to skillet. Continue cooking just to heat through, stirring occasionally. Sprinkle with Parmesan cheese and additional chopped basil, if desired. Season with salt and pepper as desired.
Makes 4 to 6 servings.
Nutrition information (1/4 of recipe): 461 calories; 33 g protein;
18 g digestible carbohydrates*; 13 g total fat; 2 g saturated fat; 225 mg cholesterol;
776 mg sodium; 6 g total dietary fiber.
*If traditional pasta is used in this recipe there is a total of 48 g carbohydrate. For more information go to http://www.dreamfieldsfoods.com/
Foodie Fridays Guest blogger: Butternut Squash Soup
This is a great fall recipe from our friend Seaweed Snacks. It's quite low in fat and high in beta-carotene which = super healthy for you and your family.
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Butternut Squash Soup
1 large butternut squash skin and seeds removed, chopped into cubes
4 cups stock
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1 onion chopped
5 cloves garlic
1 tsp salt
juice of a lime
1 tbls. olive oil
I use an immersion blender to make this soup. If you don't have an immersion blender, then you can pour the soup into a blender after it has been cooking about 40 minutes. Make sure you put a dish towel on top of the blender lid to prevent burning yourself while blending.
Return to soup pot and cook for 30 minutes more.
This is a really basic recipe. You can add things....like vanilla seeds, roasted peppers or leeks. Crumble goat cheese and sun dried tomatoes on top. Oh that would be good.
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Butternut Squash Soup
1 large butternut squash skin and seeds removed, chopped into cubes
4 cups stock
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1 onion chopped
5 cloves garlic
1 tsp salt
juice of a lime
1 tbls. olive oil
I use an immersion blender to make this soup. If you don't have an immersion blender, then you can pour the soup into a blender after it has been cooking about 40 minutes. Make sure you put a dish towel on top of the blender lid to prevent burning yourself while blending.
Return to soup pot and cook for 30 minutes more.
This is a really basic recipe. You can add things....like vanilla seeds, roasted peppers or leeks. Crumble goat cheese and sun dried tomatoes on top. Oh that would be good.
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Thursday, October 22, 2009
The best medicine
When was the last time you laughed? I mean real, true, hardcore belly laugh, tears streaming down your face, about to fall off your chair and pee yourself laugh? Chances are you don't do it often enough.
Studies have shown 2 things about laughter recently: it IS truly contagious, and it has amazing health benefits.
Laughter is contagious
According to a 2006 study the brain responds to the sound of laughter and preps the muscles in the face to join in the mirth. One of the researches who spear-headed this project, Dr. Sophie Scott, a neuroscientist at the University College London: "We've known for some time that when we are talking to someone, we often mirror their behavior, copying the words they use and mimicking their gestures. Now we've shown that the same appears to apply to laughter, too--at least at the level of the brain."
Health benefits
Laughter has been shown to reduce pain, anxiety and depression. It triggers endorphines in the brain, which are the "pleasure" drugs our brain produces. Large scale studies have been completed on "entertainment" therapy finding that patients undergoing painful treatments report less pain and side effects when watching funny TV/videos and laughing out loud in response to the comedy seen. These studies have been particularly helpful in understanding and lessening painful treatments and side effects in children undergoing cancer treatment. Additional studies have shown that laughter can be almost as effective in treating depression as many typical and "standard" treatment medications, because of the endorphines and dopamine released in the brain.
As busy HOTmamas, we are stressed out and likely aren't taking time for ourselves as far as our health (ie: diet and exercise.) We are taking care of EVERYONE ELSE in our lives: husbands, children, parents, friends. But there is something small we can do for ourselves each and every day: we can laugh, outloud and with gusto and reap the health benefits WE DESERVE!
So, when was the last time you belly laughed? What prompted this?
Studies have shown 2 things about laughter recently: it IS truly contagious, and it has amazing health benefits.
Laughter is contagious
According to a 2006 study the brain responds to the sound of laughter and preps the muscles in the face to join in the mirth. One of the researches who spear-headed this project, Dr. Sophie Scott, a neuroscientist at the University College London: "We've known for some time that when we are talking to someone, we often mirror their behavior, copying the words they use and mimicking their gestures. Now we've shown that the same appears to apply to laughter, too--at least at the level of the brain."
Health benefits
Laughter has been shown to reduce pain, anxiety and depression. It triggers endorphines in the brain, which are the "pleasure" drugs our brain produces. Large scale studies have been completed on "entertainment" therapy finding that patients undergoing painful treatments report less pain and side effects when watching funny TV/videos and laughing out loud in response to the comedy seen. These studies have been particularly helpful in understanding and lessening painful treatments and side effects in children undergoing cancer treatment. Additional studies have shown that laughter can be almost as effective in treating depression as many typical and "standard" treatment medications, because of the endorphines and dopamine released in the brain.
As busy HOTmamas, we are stressed out and likely aren't taking time for ourselves as far as our health (ie: diet and exercise.) We are taking care of EVERYONE ELSE in our lives: husbands, children, parents, friends. But there is something small we can do for ourselves each and every day: we can laugh, outloud and with gusto and reap the health benefits WE DESERVE!
So, when was the last time you belly laughed? What prompted this?
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Wellness Wednesday Guest Blogger: The Exercise Game
Today's Wellness post is from Guest Blogger Marathon Mama. I met Marathon Mama in Ethiopia this summer. Her dedication to herself and her family really impressed me. She has, over the years FOUND that balance between her family and herself. She is a HOTmama for herself, and her family.
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Yes, You Do Have Time to Exercise!
Some of us love to exercise, some of us hate it, and some of us are just happy to get it done because we're supposed to. All of us are busy moms who are going to have to sacrifice/juggle/struggle to find time to take care of ourselves. I'm not going to spout statistics, but I think we all know (deep down, even if we don't want to admit it) that exercising will keep us alive and energetic longer than not exercising, and there are people counting on our energy for the long haul. Day to day, feeling stronger, more alert, and more energetic can only help.
My personal routine is a little crazy. I've been an avid distance runner for about 7 years. No, I'm not good--I just love doing it. My favorite races are road marathons, but I've also done some trail running and some shorter races. While I'm running, I meditate, decompress ,and problem-solve. It's become a very necessary part of my life... Which is why I wake up at 4 AM EVERY MORNING. Yes, even on the weekends. On 3 days during the week, I have a little breakfast, warm up, run for an hour, come home, get ready for work, spend some time with my men, and I'm at work by 7:30 so I can get my (13-month-old) son from school before 4. (My husband and I shift our work schedules to keep M in school less than 8 hours a day.) The 2 days I don't run during the week, I'll do calisthenics or cross-training during that early-morning hour. On the weekends, my husband and I alternate our long run days. On his long run day, I spend an hour doing strength work before waking M and spending quality time with him that includes an hour run in the jogging stroller. On my long run day, I leave right around when M wakes up, and the men have bonding time until I get home a few hours later. Sometimes my work requires me to work crazy hours, and then we have to juggle, but for the most part, this is how we do it.
Yes, I'm blessed with a supportive spouse. Yes, I'm probably harming my health somewhat by only sleeping 5-6 hours a night. And yes, I've been an athlete my whole life (gymnast for 20 years). So, for those of us who are just beginning a program, who really can't leave their children with someone else for any period of time, or who just aren't crazy about exercise, I offer...
The Exercise Game
Think of it like a drinking game. Every time you finish changing a diaper, drop and do 20 push-ups. You can start out with "little boy" push-ups with your knees down, but try to build up to the "womanly" version with flat back and head forward. Every time you feed a kid, do 25 sit-ups. Get the older kids to hold your feet (and/or sit on your chest to make it harder--hee hee). Every time you get a kid dressed, do 25 squats or 10 lunges on each side. You get the idea. Make up your own rules, mix it up, and have fun with it. If you're worried about bulking up, trust me: you won't. Most women do not do enough strength training because they are concerned about this. You will only firm up doing body-weight-type exercises. (Bulk only comes with lifting massive amounts of weight and/or taking extra testosterone.) For cardio, get the family out for a 30-45 minute walk 4-5 times a week. Walk to help digest your dinner or to go to a park for some fun. If you work, and you have a lunch hour, consider an extra walk then. To make sure you are exerting enough effort, keep in mind that you should just barely be able to carry on a conversation while walking.
Make sure you're stretching and drinking plenty of fluids. And, as always, be sure to consult a physician before beginning a new exercise program. If anyone tries this, keep me posted on your progress, and let me know how you change things up--I'm always looking for new ideas... Happy moving!
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I'm very inspired by Marathon Mama, and I'm going to try to get up at 5 am, 3 times a week to walk outside for 1 hour before work.
Has Marathon Mama inspired you? Are you going to commit to taking time for exercise? How?
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Yes, You Do Have Time to Exercise!
Some of us love to exercise, some of us hate it, and some of us are just happy to get it done because we're supposed to. All of us are busy moms who are going to have to sacrifice/juggle/struggle to find time to take care of ourselves. I'm not going to spout statistics, but I think we all know (deep down, even if we don't want to admit it) that exercising will keep us alive and energetic longer than not exercising, and there are people counting on our energy for the long haul. Day to day, feeling stronger, more alert, and more energetic can only help.
My personal routine is a little crazy. I've been an avid distance runner for about 7 years. No, I'm not good--I just love doing it. My favorite races are road marathons, but I've also done some trail running and some shorter races. While I'm running, I meditate, decompress ,and problem-solve. It's become a very necessary part of my life... Which is why I wake up at 4 AM EVERY MORNING. Yes, even on the weekends. On 3 days during the week, I have a little breakfast, warm up, run for an hour, come home, get ready for work, spend some time with my men, and I'm at work by 7:30 so I can get my (13-month-old) son from school before 4. (My husband and I shift our work schedules to keep M in school less than 8 hours a day.) The 2 days I don't run during the week, I'll do calisthenics or cross-training during that early-morning hour. On the weekends, my husband and I alternate our long run days. On his long run day, I spend an hour doing strength work before waking M and spending quality time with him that includes an hour run in the jogging stroller. On my long run day, I leave right around when M wakes up, and the men have bonding time until I get home a few hours later. Sometimes my work requires me to work crazy hours, and then we have to juggle, but for the most part, this is how we do it.
Yes, I'm blessed with a supportive spouse. Yes, I'm probably harming my health somewhat by only sleeping 5-6 hours a night. And yes, I've been an athlete my whole life (gymnast for 20 years). So, for those of us who are just beginning a program, who really can't leave their children with someone else for any period of time, or who just aren't crazy about exercise, I offer...
The Exercise Game
Think of it like a drinking game. Every time you finish changing a diaper, drop and do 20 push-ups. You can start out with "little boy" push-ups with your knees down, but try to build up to the "womanly" version with flat back and head forward. Every time you feed a kid, do 25 sit-ups. Get the older kids to hold your feet (and/or sit on your chest to make it harder--hee hee). Every time you get a kid dressed, do 25 squats or 10 lunges on each side. You get the idea. Make up your own rules, mix it up, and have fun with it. If you're worried about bulking up, trust me: you won't. Most women do not do enough strength training because they are concerned about this. You will only firm up doing body-weight-type exercises. (Bulk only comes with lifting massive amounts of weight and/or taking extra testosterone.) For cardio, get the family out for a 30-45 minute walk 4-5 times a week. Walk to help digest your dinner or to go to a park for some fun. If you work, and you have a lunch hour, consider an extra walk then. To make sure you are exerting enough effort, keep in mind that you should just barely be able to carry on a conversation while walking.
Make sure you're stretching and drinking plenty of fluids. And, as always, be sure to consult a physician before beginning a new exercise program. If anyone tries this, keep me posted on your progress, and let me know how you change things up--I'm always looking for new ideas... Happy moving!
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I'm very inspired by Marathon Mama, and I'm going to try to get up at 5 am, 3 times a week to walk outside for 1 hour before work.
Has Marathon Mama inspired you? Are you going to commit to taking time for exercise? How?
Rough morning recap
This morning was a pure disaster. I try to plan ahead to make morning easier in our house (have my lunches & breakfast ready, set the coffee maker, have my outfit and Sam's pre-planned if not already set out, etc.) but I clearly and utterly failed today.
Let's recap:
Although I set my alarm last night, I evidently put it in the "off" position, so instead of waking at 6am, I awoke at 7am. Okay, I can get myself together and make the next train, arriving at work only slightly late. As an attorney, I don't have firm hours, but try to get to the office at 8 am everyday, so it wouldn't be a big deal. But while trying to leave the house (my guys drive me to the station, 2 miles away, so they can have the car all day), we couldn't find the keys. Mind you, we have ONE set of car keys (I know, a big mistake in and of itself.) We knew Sam had been playing with them last night (again, a mistake on our part), but couldn't figure out where then ended up. We searched everywhere for about 35 minutes, while arguing with each other (why didn't you take them from him? Why did you give them to him in the first place? You MUST have moved them because last I saw they were here!) ...by now I had missed another train. We FINALLY found them behind a heat register, where Sam had evidently dropped them/hid them; I say this because he was laughing at this point. The next train wasn't until 9:04, so I had G drive me downtown to work. Arrrggghhhh! Although I got into work at 8:55 (no big deal) I proceeded to spill my morning oatmeal on my shirt while stirring it (I use instant packets), had to rinse the shirt to prevent a crusty stain, and now look like a candidate for the annual Ft. Lauderdale Wet T-Shirt Contest. Thank goodness the shirt is teal blue instead of white!
With small children, do you ever have days like this? How do you plan your mornings to prevent these debacles?
Let's recap:
Although I set my alarm last night, I evidently put it in the "off" position, so instead of waking at 6am, I awoke at 7am. Okay, I can get myself together and make the next train, arriving at work only slightly late. As an attorney, I don't have firm hours, but try to get to the office at 8 am everyday, so it wouldn't be a big deal. But while trying to leave the house (my guys drive me to the station, 2 miles away, so they can have the car all day), we couldn't find the keys. Mind you, we have ONE set of car keys (I know, a big mistake in and of itself.) We knew Sam had been playing with them last night (again, a mistake on our part), but couldn't figure out where then ended up. We searched everywhere for about 35 minutes, while arguing with each other (why didn't you take them from him? Why did you give them to him in the first place? You MUST have moved them because last I saw they were here!) ...by now I had missed another train. We FINALLY found them behind a heat register, where Sam had evidently dropped them/hid them; I say this because he was laughing at this point. The next train wasn't until 9:04, so I had G drive me downtown to work. Arrrggghhhh! Although I got into work at 8:55 (no big deal) I proceeded to spill my morning oatmeal on my shirt while stirring it (I use instant packets), had to rinse the shirt to prevent a crusty stain, and now look like a candidate for the annual Ft. Lauderdale Wet T-Shirt Contest. Thank goodness the shirt is teal blue instead of white!
With small children, do you ever have days like this? How do you plan your mornings to prevent these debacles?
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Product review: baby wearing/baby carriers
Zenful Mommy and Sam's Mom both have little ones we "wear." Baby wearing is a wonderful way to bond with your child, while keeping you hands free to GET STUFF DONE. Sam's Mom primarily does baby wearing in grocery stores/errands, and outside walks. Sam also loves to be in the carrier when he's super-fussy; being close, feeling mama's heartbeat seems to calm him. Zenful Mommy is a SAHM and without babycarring, would NOT be able to get cooking/cleaning/laundry and everything else done. We have each tried a myriad of carriers over the last few months, and want to share our favorites with you.
MAYA WRAP
MAYA WRAP
Description: the Maya wrap is a long (6 foot) piece of light-weight fabric, secured with D rings. It is an over-one-shoulder sling wrap and adjusts for newborns to toddlers (up to 35 lbs.) You can hold baby in many different poses, and even breast-feed while wearing baby. It's quite versatle and, depending upon the style you purchase, has padding on the shoulder and a pocket that can hold a diaper, keys, wallet, etc.Sam's Mom: My Maya wrap is the newer version with a padded shoulder and large zippered pocket. I really like it. It took me a bit to get used to the D rings, but I find they are VERY secure (a worry at first) and allow for a total custom fit. Sam likes the hip hold the best, but also the front hold (if he's fussy.) When he was smaller we used the cradle hold and he would fall asleep in the carrier. It was a god-send while we were in Ethiopia!
Zenful Mommy: My Maya wrap is actually a discontinued version and is more like the Hotsling(see below). I LOVE LOVE this sling. I ordered the wrap after my daughter was diagnosed with Reflux at less than a week old and basically had to be kept in an upright position 24 hours a day. This sling was my SAVIOUR and was really easy to use. I was able to order the wrap in a size (S,M,L) which fit my frame perfect! There were buttons if I needed to make it a little tighter or make any slight adjustments. I use this for my 3rd baby now, its great for infants and especially easy to put on as well as to insert the baby or toddler. Toddlers can sit on your hip and see what going on and you can still have free hands. It is also great for nursing and does provide slight coverage.As I mentioned, my Maya Wrap is a version that is no longer available but I absolutely LOVE it and still use it to this day. MY ALL TIME FAV!
HOTSLING
Description: Hotslings are a continuous piece of slightly stretchy fabric, sewn in a circular shape. You fold the fabric in half, and baby fits in between the 2 sides, just like in the Maya Wrap. It's also an over-one-shoulder sling wrap and can be used for newborns to toddlers (up to 35 lbs.) Again, you can hold baby in many different poses.
MOBY
Description: The Moby is a long piece (15 feet) of slightly stretchy fabric. It is tied on and has a lot of position options. It's for newborns to toddlers (up to 35 lbs.) It CAN be difficult to get used to at first, and the tying definitely has a learning-curve.
Sam's Mom: There are loads of You-Tube videos to help you out, but at first I needed the help of my husband to get the hang of it. It's also the most difficult to get Sam into/out of. That being said, it is THE MOST COMFORTABLE because it evenly distributes the weight across both shoulders and your entire back. The fabric is wide, so it doesn't dig into your shoulders. It also covers baby more, so is great for the fall. I can fit Sam in it with or without a jacket/coat. For me, this isn't a grocery/errand kind of wrap, because it's just too complicated to get on. However, it's great for long walks/hiking and longer wearing. It is really, really comfortable, I cannot stress that enough. I have been told by many moms that the more I wear/use it , the faster I'll get (tying it on.)
BABY BJORN
Sam's Mom: There are loads of You-Tube videos to help you out, but at first I needed the help of my husband to get the hang of it. It's also the most difficult to get Sam into/out of. That being said, it is THE MOST COMFORTABLE because it evenly distributes the weight across both shoulders and your entire back. The fabric is wide, so it doesn't dig into your shoulders. It also covers baby more, so is great for the fall. I can fit Sam in it with or without a jacket/coat. For me, this isn't a grocery/errand kind of wrap, because it's just too complicated to get on. However, it's great for long walks/hiking and longer wearing. It is really, really comfortable, I cannot stress that enough. I have been told by many moms that the more I wear/use it , the faster I'll get (tying it on.)
BABY BJORN
Description: the Baby Bjorn is a structured wrap (think: back-pack for baby.)
Zenful Mommy: Our Baby Bjorn is mostly used by my husband as it looks more masculine for him. It is quite pricey but well worth it. I did try it on a weekend trip but found that it hurt my back and was quite difficult to put the baby in because of all of the snaps and hooks. My husband loves carrying my son in this and says that it does not hurt his back or cause any stress. You can carry babies thru toddlers and they can face you or face outward. We have this for a back up and for when we go out with all of the kids and daddy has the baby while I have the girls.
ERGO
Zenful Mommy : My Ergo was given to me a couple of weeks ago by a mom who I was talking to after school one day. I was telling her how I had to nurse my son in the bathroom at the school. She proceeded to go to her car and bring me the Ergo baby carrier and told me to try it out. I can NOT say enough good things about this carrier. First of all it is super easy to put on and super easy to put a baby in...but the best WOW factor is that you can nurse and snap up a little cover over the baby and no one can see! YIPPEE! This means that I can nurse anywhere and anytime and not feel self conscious at all. I would definitely suggest this if you want something that is easy to use from newborn on up and a MUST if you are going to nurse.
If you have any questions about any of the carriers or about our review in general, please contact us.
Do you have a favorite carrier? We'd love to hear about it!
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Monday, October 19, 2009
I Did It!
Yeah I did it! I went on a date with the hubby and the kids were fine! Anxiety had definitely set in once it was time to leave the kids at the G'parents house but I made it through. Hubby and I were able to check into our hotel and have lunch and a glass of wine at the lobby bar....mind you with no interruptions, no wiping of noses, cutting other peoples food or multiple group trips to the bathroom.We then got to take an hour nap...I think that I could have slept forever! Who knew what a nap could do for your spirits? Maybe I need to make nap time everyday for myself, just to rejuvenate. We enjoyed a wonderful dinner and then went to the opening night of the Joffrey Ballet which was amazing! We slept in late the next morning and enjoyed a nice walk down Michigan avenue...just enjoying each others company. It is so true that Happy Parents = A Happy Home. Take the time for yourself...spend some time alone with your spouse . I love my children dearly and missed them more than I could imagine..I couldn't wait to see their little faces but taking the time to re-connect with my hubby was worth it!
p.s. the picture is of the shoes that I wore for our date, they have been sitting in my closet for over a year! LOVE THEM!
Can you make time to do something with your spouse or significant other at least once a month?
Product review: Mineral Makeup
HOTmamas need to look GREAT, FAST. So we need products to help us out.
I have been using mineral makeup, primarily Bare Minerals for about 4 years and LOVE the results. It's powder, so easy-peasy, but you determine the coverage. Mineral makeup is like a second skin, and people routinely ask me about my skin, thinking I'm not wearing any foundation at all: it's that natural looking. While I love my Bare Minerals, I knew I wouldn't be able to use it in Ethiopia, when I went to pick up my son. If you are familiar with Bare Minerals, it's swirl-tap-buff. That means loose powder in the cap. And loose powder is NOT an option with a wriggly baby. I needed something I could just slap on while holding the baby. Tall order, right?
I checked out my local Target, and found Neutrogena Mineral Sheers® Powder Foundation.
In Ethiopia, it was a god-send. I could look put-together in about 30-45 seconds with a little powder, blush & lip gloss. When I returned home, I continued using the Neutrogena products because new baby = no time for mommy. I continue to love the time-saving FANTASTIC look I get. I get ready for work in a very short time, which is great because Sam is usually up shortly after I am!
What beauty products do you use to keep you looking great FAST?
Saturday, October 17, 2009
It will be ok...
So tonight, DH and I are having a night out on the town. Yes, we need some time for each other. Yes, the kids will be fine. Yes, I will worry all night but YES I will be ok.
It has probably been almost a year since DH and I have gone on a "date". With his crazy work schedule (12 hour days) and me being pregnant and now having the newborn we haven't gone anywhere. When he was home on the weekends, we spent time as a family and took the time to adjust to having another baby in the house. As Sam's mom has said before, we NEED time for ourselves. A month or so ago, my husband came home and told me that he bought season theatre tickets. (what?!!!how could you without asking ME first?)His thoughts were that if he bought them, we would have to go. Don't get me wrong ,I know that we need the time alone but I was and AM a little freaked out about leaving my 11 week old. I know that my DD7 and DD4 can take care of themselves and will be just fine with G'ma and G'pa but what about the baby?Did I mention that we are staying overnight? I get nautious thinking about it...
So today is the BIG day and my anxiety has set in. Apart from the stress from packing stuff for the kids to take with them to the G'parents, the baby needs a trunk load of stuff...and what if they don't know his different cry's, how to comfort him the way I do?What if I worry so much that I call them a million times or what if I don't call(as not to embarrass myself) and worry myself sick? What if his parents think I'm a bad mom for leaving my baby so early? WHAT IF?
Cross your fingers and your toes for me! I will enjoy dinner with my DH, The kids will be fine, and YES it will be ok.
How do you deal with leaving your children? What makes it easier?
It has probably been almost a year since DH and I have gone on a "date". With his crazy work schedule (12 hour days) and me being pregnant and now having the newborn we haven't gone anywhere. When he was home on the weekends, we spent time as a family and took the time to adjust to having another baby in the house. As Sam's mom has said before, we NEED time for ourselves. A month or so ago, my husband came home and told me that he bought season theatre tickets. (what?!!!how could you without asking ME first?)His thoughts were that if he bought them, we would have to go. Don't get me wrong ,I know that we need the time alone but I was and AM a little freaked out about leaving my 11 week old. I know that my DD7 and DD4 can take care of themselves and will be just fine with G'ma and G'pa but what about the baby?Did I mention that we are staying overnight? I get nautious thinking about it...
So today is the BIG day and my anxiety has set in. Apart from the stress from packing stuff for the kids to take with them to the G'parents, the baby needs a trunk load of stuff...and what if they don't know his different cry's, how to comfort him the way I do?What if I worry so much that I call them a million times or what if I don't call(as not to embarrass myself) and worry myself sick? What if his parents think I'm a bad mom for leaving my baby so early? WHAT IF?
Cross your fingers and your toes for me! I will enjoy dinner with my DH, The kids will be fine, and YES it will be ok.
How do you deal with leaving your children? What makes it easier?
Friday, October 16, 2009
Foodie Fridays Guest Blogger: Flagolet Beans with Kale & Roasted Tomatoes
From our guest foodie: Seaweed Snacks. Its not a lightening fast recipe, but your efforts are well worth it! Sam's Mom has made using the crock pot with great results (I didn't even soak the beans, just added extra liquid and did the whole bean process in the crock on low for 3 1/2 hours.) A great weekend treat!
Flageolet beans are are common in France. They are the bean in cassoulets, and popular due to their mellow flavor and ability to not fall apart while cooking. I like them because they are creamy and easy to cook. These beans tend to be light green to cream in color and are the size of a small navy bean. In fact, recipes that call for flageolet can be substituted with navy beans.
Like all dried beans, these are to be soaked over night. Of course I forget to soak beans overnight almost always, so I cheat and bring beans covered in water to a boil, rinse them, then cook them according to the directions.
Like all dried beans, these are to be soaked over night. Of course I forget to soak beans overnight almost always, so I cheat and bring beans covered in water to a boil, rinse them, then cook them according to the directions.
You don't need a pressure cooker for this recipe. Cook the beans for 2 hrs. without a pressure cooker, or 1 hour with a pressure cooker. This is wonderful winter and fall food, as well as a great way to use up those end-of-summer tomatoes.
Beans
1 1/2 cups flageolet beans (or navy)
Enough water or stock just to cover beans (about 4 cups)
1 twig fresh rosemary
5 twigs fresh thyme
zest 1 lemon
glug of olive oil
2 med. carrots diced finely
1/2 large onion diced finely
1/2 cup dry white wine
bay leaf
After soaking or fast soaking (see above), sautee onions, carrots and olive oil in pot with drained beans. Sautee for 10 minutes, then add white wine and lemon zest.
Tie rosemary and thyme together with butcher twine. Add to pot along with bay leaf
Cook covered for two hours, stirring occasionally. Add more stock if it dries out. If it seems like it is too soupy, you will be able to reduce the liquid with lid off at the end of cooking.
Roasted Tomatoes
3 very ripe tomatoes
1 clove garlic
sea salt
olive oil
on a cookie sheet, set tomato slices (one inch thick) about 3 inches apart
slice garlic clove very thin and put a slice of the clove on top of each tomato.
Sprinkle with olive oil and salt.
Roast for 3o minutes at 400 degrees.
Take out of oven, let cool.
Use spatula to remove tomato slices. Coarsely chop and add to top of bean servings.
Kale
One large bunch Kale
glug olive oil
pinch salt
Remove stems from kale. I do this by just running my hand down the stalk while ripping the leaves away. Use a knife to chop kale into 2 inch pieces.
In a nonstick or castiron skillet, heat olive oil and add kale. Turn to coat olive oil and add pinch of salt. Cook until very wilted, about 10 minutes. Set aside in bowl.
When beans are cooked and the sauce in the beans looks thick like gravy, add the kale and any extra salt to taste.
Spoon into bowls and top with roasted tomatoes.
Beans
1 1/2 cups flageolet beans (or navy)
Enough water or stock just to cover beans (about 4 cups)
1 twig fresh rosemary
5 twigs fresh thyme
zest 1 lemon
glug of olive oil
2 med. carrots diced finely
1/2 large onion diced finely
1/2 cup dry white wine
bay leaf
After soaking or fast soaking (see above), sautee onions, carrots and olive oil in pot with drained beans. Sautee for 10 minutes, then add white wine and lemon zest.
Tie rosemary and thyme together with butcher twine. Add to pot along with bay leaf
Cook covered for two hours, stirring occasionally. Add more stock if it dries out. If it seems like it is too soupy, you will be able to reduce the liquid with lid off at the end of cooking.
Roasted Tomatoes
3 very ripe tomatoes
1 clove garlic
sea salt
olive oil
on a cookie sheet, set tomato slices (one inch thick) about 3 inches apart
slice garlic clove very thin and put a slice of the clove on top of each tomato.
Sprinkle with olive oil and salt.
Roast for 3o minutes at 400 degrees.
Take out of oven, let cool.
Use spatula to remove tomato slices. Coarsely chop and add to top of bean servings.
Kale
One large bunch Kale
glug olive oil
pinch salt
Remove stems from kale. I do this by just running my hand down the stalk while ripping the leaves away. Use a knife to chop kale into 2 inch pieces.
In a nonstick or castiron skillet, heat olive oil and add kale. Turn to coat olive oil and add pinch of salt. Cook until very wilted, about 10 minutes. Set aside in bowl.
When beans are cooked and the sauce in the beans looks thick like gravy, add the kale and any extra salt to taste.
Spoon into bowls and top with roasted tomatoes.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Blog Action Day
Being a HOTmama means having conviction in your beliefs and fighting the good fight. Both Zenful Mommy and Sam's Mom believe global warming is a topic that needs talking about: a healthy, sustainable planet is important for our children, our grandchildren and our great-grandchildren. Global warming effects EVERYONE: it causes excessive hot/dry and cold/wet weather leading to droughts, flooding and other forms of severe weather. This, in turn causes crop failure, food shortages, a lack of drinkable water, and is harmful to world economies. As such, it effects ALL moms across the globe.
But global warming is a world problem we can ALL work to change: and little steps really add up. We can teach our children, by our example, how to give back to the planet that has given us everything.
Things WE do/ideas for your family:
1. Always turn off the lights when you leave a room.
2. Always turn off electronics at night/during the day if no one is at home.
3. Replacing your lightbulbs with low-energy bulbs.
4. Turn off the water while brushing your teeth.
5. Recycle paper/plastic/glass.
6. Compost.
7. Use chlorine free disposible diapers or cloth.
8. Only use the dishwasher/washing machine with a full load.
9. Wash clothing in warm or cold water instead of hot.
10. Re-fill metal/plastic water bottles instead of purchasing bottled water.
But global warming is a world problem we can ALL work to change: and little steps really add up. We can teach our children, by our example, how to give back to the planet that has given us everything.
Things WE do/ideas for your family:
1. Always turn off the lights when you leave a room.
2. Always turn off electronics at night/during the day if no one is at home.
3. Replacing your lightbulbs with low-energy bulbs.
4. Turn off the water while brushing your teeth.
5. Recycle paper/plastic/glass.
6. Compost.
7. Use chlorine free disposible diapers or cloth.
8. Only use the dishwasher/washing machine with a full load.
9. Wash clothing in warm or cold water instead of hot.
10. Re-fill metal/plastic water bottles instead of purchasing bottled water.
Fall cooking: your crock pot is your friend
To be a hot mama, you need some time for yourself, and that means finding creative TIME SAVING ways to care for your family.
Gearing up for Foodie Fridays, saving time makes me thing about my CROCK POT.
Steaming veggie soups, thick stews, pasta dishes, and the list goes on and on. Crock pots equal HEALTHY FAST meals for your family. Because crock pots cook with low-constant heat from all sides, no oil is needed, so it's a great way to cook tender meats without the fat. It also allows you to throw a couple ingredients in in the morning, and have a hot & tasty meal at night, with NO EFFORT. Being busy moms we can use all the help we can get, right? Try bulk cooking in a crock pot, freezing the meal in portions for use during the week.
Although I should use it year-round (and have friends who do) I usually only use it during the fall/winter. I make a mean 3 bean chili and a great Ethiopian stew. I'll post those recipes in the future, I promise.
Today, to gear up for the weekend, I wanted to direct you to Stephanie O'Dea's blog: A year of Crock Pot Cooking. Stephanie did an experiment, using her crock pot everyday for a year; and wrote a cookbook about it. This posting, has a link to healthy recipes including some killer soups and stews. Remember, because of the slow heat and need for liquid, crock pot cooking is virtually fat free. Most of the healthy recipes you make for your family now can be made in the crock pot. When I'm using my trusty 'ol crock, I prep any veggies the night before, then just add the ingredients to the pot in the morning before work and cook on the lowest setting all day long. When I come home at night, our dinner is READY, with lots of leftovers to spare.
So get creative, pull out the dusty crock pot (because we ALL got them as wedding presents, right?), and make an easy/fast/healthy meal for your family this weekend.
Some suggestions: chop up leftover chicken/beef/pork, add your favorite root veggies, water and some broth and slow cook a delicious soup. Or, throw some canned beans in with canned tomatoes, onion, beef/chicken/pork/tofu, spices and make a mean chili. I even know a mom who makes "baked" pasta dishes (put the pasta in dry) and Mexican fare.
On Monday, I want to hear all about your delicious crock pot masterpiece!
Gearing up for Foodie Fridays, saving time makes me thing about my CROCK POT.
Steaming veggie soups, thick stews, pasta dishes, and the list goes on and on. Crock pots equal HEALTHY FAST meals for your family. Because crock pots cook with low-constant heat from all sides, no oil is needed, so it's a great way to cook tender meats without the fat. It also allows you to throw a couple ingredients in in the morning, and have a hot & tasty meal at night, with NO EFFORT. Being busy moms we can use all the help we can get, right? Try bulk cooking in a crock pot, freezing the meal in portions for use during the week.
Although I should use it year-round (and have friends who do) I usually only use it during the fall/winter. I make a mean 3 bean chili and a great Ethiopian stew. I'll post those recipes in the future, I promise.
Today, to gear up for the weekend, I wanted to direct you to Stephanie O'Dea's blog: A year of Crock Pot Cooking. Stephanie did an experiment, using her crock pot everyday for a year; and wrote a cookbook about it. This posting, has a link to healthy recipes including some killer soups and stews. Remember, because of the slow heat and need for liquid, crock pot cooking is virtually fat free. Most of the healthy recipes you make for your family now can be made in the crock pot. When I'm using my trusty 'ol crock, I prep any veggies the night before, then just add the ingredients to the pot in the morning before work and cook on the lowest setting all day long. When I come home at night, our dinner is READY, with lots of leftovers to spare.
So get creative, pull out the dusty crock pot (because we ALL got them as wedding presents, right?), and make an easy/fast/healthy meal for your family this weekend.
Some suggestions: chop up leftover chicken/beef/pork, add your favorite root veggies, water and some broth and slow cook a delicious soup. Or, throw some canned beans in with canned tomatoes, onion, beef/chicken/pork/tofu, spices and make a mean chili. I even know a mom who makes "baked" pasta dishes (put the pasta in dry) and Mexican fare.
On Monday, I want to hear all about your delicious crock pot masterpiece!
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Why isn't this working?
So on October 1st I decided to make it my JANUARY 1st...you know, the day when everyone starts their new workout program, eats healthy for a few weeks and make many resolutions that they don't keep. My idea was to start on October 1st and my goal was simple, a healthier lifestyle.
My 1st week went quite well. Six workouts with my Power 90 video tapes, the Fat Burning series. It was definitely no joke and I was sore! I also made healthy food choices for the week fruits, veggies, Veggie Burgers etc..and ate 5 small meals a day. I found that I was VERY full and didn't need to snack and didn't crave junk food which is MAJOR for me as I usually consume chocolate and potato chips daily, its that sweet and salty combo that gets me. So at the one week mark , I weighed myself to see what my progress was and much to my surprise, I weighed exactly the same. I thought to myself WHY ISN'T THIS WORKING!!!(ok, those weren't the exact words but you get the point) I went back to my handy dandy book and realized that I should measure myself and compare my measurements instead of the wieght and much to my suprise I had lost 2 inches in my waist and an inch off of each thigh..YIPPEE and GO ME!!! I so freakin' excited that I couldve' done a back flip. My goal live a healthier lifestyle and oh yeah...fit into a bikini for our summer trip. So many people have told me that you'll always have a litttle "pooch" after having kids and probably won't ever wear a bikini after 3 kids...well I am here to proove you wrong .
What is your goal when in comes to overall health? How do you fit in workouts?
P.S. I did take a before picture of myself which I will post once I reach my goal...its pretty eye opening to take a picture of yourself in shorts and a sports bra when you are out of shape...
My 1st week went quite well. Six workouts with my Power 90 video tapes, the Fat Burning series. It was definitely no joke and I was sore! I also made healthy food choices for the week fruits, veggies, Veggie Burgers etc..and ate 5 small meals a day. I found that I was VERY full and didn't need to snack and didn't crave junk food which is MAJOR for me as I usually consume chocolate and potato chips daily, its that sweet and salty combo that gets me. So at the one week mark , I weighed myself to see what my progress was and much to my surprise, I weighed exactly the same. I thought to myself WHY ISN'T THIS WORKING!!!(ok, those weren't the exact words but you get the point) I went back to my handy dandy book and realized that I should measure myself and compare my measurements instead of the wieght and much to my suprise I had lost 2 inches in my waist and an inch off of each thigh..YIPPEE and GO ME!!! I so freakin' excited that I couldve' done a back flip. My goal live a healthier lifestyle and oh yeah...fit into a bikini for our summer trip. So many people have told me that you'll always have a litttle "pooch" after having kids and probably won't ever wear a bikini after 3 kids...well I am here to proove you wrong .
What is your goal when in comes to overall health? How do you fit in workouts?
P.S. I did take a before picture of myself which I will post once I reach my goal...its pretty eye opening to take a picture of yourself in shorts and a sports bra when you are out of shape...
Scared straight
I just heard a story on NPR that scared the crap out of me. Well, actually, it scared the Diet Coke out of me. I have a habit. And it's not healthy (okay, if you read this blog you know that I have more than one non-healthy habit, but let's stick to Diet Coke for now.) I LOVE LOVE LOVE Diet Coke. I drink A LOT of it. I've always told myself that since it's DIET, then it's not bad for me. But, let's face it, it has additives and fake stuff and ZERO nutritional value. It's also dehydrating, so in reality I should be drinking 24 oz water for every 12 oz soda I consume.
The tough facts from the story: Dr. Harold Goldstein, a physician and executive director of the California Center for Public Health Advocacy compiled research drawing on interviews with more than 40,000 Californians about their soda-drinking habits. "This study that we did with UCLA showed that regardless of income or ethnicity, adults who drink one or more soda a day are 27 percent more likely to be overweight or obese," Goldstein says. On average, Goldstein says, Americans drink 50 gallons of soda a year. He says it should be taxed so the beverage industry pays its fair share for the obesity epidemic.
I'm already obese, so I really need no more incentive to finally give up the lovely bubbly. I'll figure out a way. We have La Crox in our office, which is literally carbonated water and lemon. No sugar, no fake stuff. I think that will have to be my crutch. And the headaches? Well I'm NOT going to increase my coffee intake (just 1 cup/day), so I'll have to suffer for about 1 week and then should be over the worst. In Ethiopia I had no soda for a month and was fine.
Is there something in your diet/lifestyle that you KNOW is not healthy but continue to consume/do? Do you have plans to change that?
The tough facts from the story: Dr. Harold Goldstein, a physician and executive director of the California Center for Public Health Advocacy compiled research drawing on interviews with more than 40,000 Californians about their soda-drinking habits. "This study that we did with UCLA showed that regardless of income or ethnicity, adults who drink one or more soda a day are 27 percent more likely to be overweight or obese," Goldstein says. On average, Goldstein says, Americans drink 50 gallons of soda a year. He says it should be taxed so the beverage industry pays its fair share for the obesity epidemic.
I'm already obese, so I really need no more incentive to finally give up the lovely bubbly. I'll figure out a way. We have La Crox in our office, which is literally carbonated water and lemon. No sugar, no fake stuff. I think that will have to be my crutch. And the headaches? Well I'm NOT going to increase my coffee intake (just 1 cup/day), so I'll have to suffer for about 1 week and then should be over the worst. In Ethiopia I had no soda for a month and was fine.
Is there something in your diet/lifestyle that you KNOW is not healthy but continue to consume/do? Do you have plans to change that?
A commitment to MYSELF
Continuing on the road to ditch Ms. Frumpy-Dumpy, I need to make decisions that are HEALTHY and make a commitment to myself to stick to those decision. I don't want to make lifestyle changes for any reason other than to become more healthy and set good examples for my son.
So, I promise myself:
1. To take Sam for an evening walk, after work, at least 3x a week. This will get us out of the house, and get a little extra exercise for me. It will also allow G about 45 mins-1 hour of alone time those nights, which he despiritely needs & deserves. Also, take time for longer walks at least once on the weekends. When it gets too chilly....find an inside track (I hate treadmills.)
2. To do some stretching/yoga everyday.
3. To eat healthier. Veggies EVERYDAY. Less caffeine. Fast food no more than 3x month.
4. To NOT weigh myself. Judge progress on how I feel and the fit of my clothing alone.
5. To not berate myself if I fail on the above, but instead to try harder the next day/week.
What commitments are you ready to make to yourself to get/stay healthy?
So, I promise myself:
1. To take Sam for an evening walk, after work, at least 3x a week. This will get us out of the house, and get a little extra exercise for me. It will also allow G about 45 mins-1 hour of alone time those nights, which he despiritely needs & deserves. Also, take time for longer walks at least once on the weekends. When it gets too chilly....find an inside track (I hate treadmills.)
2. To do some stretching/yoga everyday.
3. To eat healthier. Veggies EVERYDAY. Less caffeine. Fast food no more than 3x month.
4. To NOT weigh myself. Judge progress on how I feel and the fit of my clothing alone.
5. To not berate myself if I fail on the above, but instead to try harder the next day/week.
What commitments are you ready to make to yourself to get/stay healthy?
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Mommy blues
Although there are hormones at play after you deliver a child, I think many of the emotions are the same for "home-grown" and adoptive moms. Specifically, the post-baby blues. For those who deliver, it's often called post-partum depression. In the adoptive world, it's often called the post-adoption blues. I understand the physiological reason behind each is different, but I recognize it exists for both types of moms.
Why? Because I have it.
Of course, I am elated to have Sammy home. He is the single best thing that has ever happened to me. He is my center, he is literally my sun and I am pulled to him with a force greater than gravity. But there is something about the finality of the adoption, and the prospect of caring for this little package of perfection than seems overwhelming and incomprehensible. I find myself barely having the energy for work during the day and Sam at night. I find myself having little to no concentration. I'm not doing the things I used to enjoy. I'm sad, a lot, especially when I'm not with Sam. I'm not taking care of myself. Most weekends it's 12 noon before I even change out of PJs and forget about taking a shower. I am consumed with Sam, but have no energy for anything else. I know this happens to a lot of moms during the first few months because I've talked to them about it.
I feel helpless at times. I feel overwhelmed. I know being the sole income now (G is a SAHD) is also adding to my feelings of stress and anxiety.
I feel like I should just "snap out of it" but understand its more complex.
So, I have taken the drastic step of seeing a shrink. And you know what? Its really helping. Don't get me wrong, he wasn't able to give me a "magically all better" pill, despite my begging and pleading. But he is able to make me understand I'm not alone and THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL and many, many mommies are feeling the same way.
I need to take more me time. I need to get back into regular meditation and yoga to reduce my stress. I need to get back into exercise to increase my endorphines. And I need to not be so hard on myself.
What have you done/what are you doing to help you with the emotional rollercoaster of being a mom?
Why? Because I have it.
Of course, I am elated to have Sammy home. He is the single best thing that has ever happened to me. He is my center, he is literally my sun and I am pulled to him with a force greater than gravity. But there is something about the finality of the adoption, and the prospect of caring for this little package of perfection than seems overwhelming and incomprehensible. I find myself barely having the energy for work during the day and Sam at night. I find myself having little to no concentration. I'm not doing the things I used to enjoy. I'm sad, a lot, especially when I'm not with Sam. I'm not taking care of myself. Most weekends it's 12 noon before I even change out of PJs and forget about taking a shower. I am consumed with Sam, but have no energy for anything else. I know this happens to a lot of moms during the first few months because I've talked to them about it.
I feel helpless at times. I feel overwhelmed. I know being the sole income now (G is a SAHD) is also adding to my feelings of stress and anxiety.
I feel like I should just "snap out of it" but understand its more complex.
So, I have taken the drastic step of seeing a shrink. And you know what? Its really helping. Don't get me wrong, he wasn't able to give me a "magically all better" pill, despite my begging and pleading. But he is able to make me understand I'm not alone and THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL and many, many mommies are feeling the same way.
I need to take more me time. I need to get back into regular meditation and yoga to reduce my stress. I need to get back into exercise to increase my endorphines. And I need to not be so hard on myself.
What have you done/what are you doing to help you with the emotional rollercoaster of being a mom?
Essential Ingredients
You may be wondering how we came up with the name for our Blog. Well, is stems from the fact that we needed to re-connect and find our innerselves, reclaim who we are. This takes some looking "inside" some self reflection to remember what our like and dislikes are. Trying to make time for ourselves is a priority as well as spending time with our spouse or significant other. We also wanted to take care of ourselves from the inside out, mentally, physically and spiritually. The word "HOT" has several meanings but the one that strikes us most is physical attractiveness as well as us FEELING attractive on the inside and out. We are both Moms so that explains the MAMA part. Many times we get lost in the shuffle. We want to find our Inner Beauty, put that bounce back in our step and encourage others to do the same ,together finding our InnerHOTmama.
There is a quote from a book I want to share :"It was hard to remember the last time she had gone anywhere without her children, or her husband.Even those few times, she had been with people who knew her as a member of a nuclear family, a role as much a part of her identity as the color of her hair and the shape of her hands. When was the last time she had been someplace where no one knew who she was?" from, The School of Essential Ingredients by Erica Bauermeister
When was the last time you went somewhere where no one knew who you were? How did this make you feel?
Monday, October 12, 2009
Curly or Straight
My goal has been to get dressed everyday. For SAHM's that is a difficult task as you are not getting dressed to go anywhere but are getting dressed for yourself. I have bought a couple of outfits since I had the baby, better than wearing my husbands t-shirts with huge sweatpants, and put them on every morning before taking the kids to school. I do my makeup and feel put together but realize that something has been missing. MY HAIR!!!! I have curly hair and feel like I don't have a style...its always and I mean ALWAYS in a ponytail...If I straighten it , I'll look like cotton ball by noon in this rainy weather, if I wear it curly, I have to wash it every morning and apply product and thats no fun. I am stuck and don't feel like my "LOOK" is complete. Any help would be appreciated!!! What kind of hair do you have? How do you complete your look when your hair won't cooperate?
Baby steps
Well, I finally did it. I spent a little time and money on MYSELF, and in return I feel GREAT. I went to the salon and got highlights this weekend. I'm growing my hair out and was feeling BLAH-FRUMPY-DUMPY (sensing a theme here?) I'm thrilled with the results. My hubby even gave me the "go ahead" and I ran to get my nails done while Sam took his afternoon nap today. WOW! A weekend of beauty! I feel confident. I'm smiling more. I have a little skip in my step. Its amazing what spending a little attention to yourself can do for your confidence and self image.
I have a long way to go on the road to DITCH Ms. Frump-Dumpy, but I feel like I'm making some progress. Next up: making and sticking to a healthy eating/exercise plan.
What did you do this weekend that was JUST FOR YOU?
I have a long way to go on the road to DITCH Ms. Frump-Dumpy, but I feel like I'm making some progress. Next up: making and sticking to a healthy eating/exercise plan.
What did you do this weekend that was JUST FOR YOU?
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Date night Conundrum
My husband and I haven’t had a date night in, gosh, well over 4 months. Intellectually, I know that is wrong: we need to, we MUST make time for our relationship. I know our dinners at home and snuggle time on the couch watching a movie after our 13 month old is asleep just isn’t cutting it. We need time, out of the house, alone together. We need a movie night, or a dinner out, or a walk in the park…something. I understand this in my head, but not in my heart.
We just returned from Ethiopia will our little guy 3 months ago. So, in many ways, we are still getting to know each other, discover each other, learn about each other. It’s like we have a 3 month old, instead of a 13 month old. He still cuddles all the time, wants to be held for bottles, needs constant reassurance, and sleeps in our room at night (he has transitioned into the pack-n-play, but it’s on the bassinet setting so he can reach out and touch me.)
I just cannot image leaving Sam. Not for a couple of hours. It’s not a babysitter/stranger thing. My mother-in-law has offered many times. Sam loves his grandma and she is amazing with him. That’s not it. It’s the act of LEAVING that has me stopped, dead in my tracks.
I do understand this isn’t just an “adoption” thing or a “home 3 months” thing. I know many, many moms who have this problem: some have newborns, some have toddlers, some have school aged kids. For whatever reason, I don’t think dads have this same problem, this pull towards their children, this need to be close all the time.
So, as I understand that G and I need a date night, I cannot bring myself to actually follow through. What’s the solution? Maybe a date “afternoon” on a weekend? Maybe I could handle that. Maybe it’s the thought of him going to bed that’s hard. I’m not sure how I’m going to fix this. But I am DETERMINED to find a way.
How are you making time for your marriage?
We just returned from Ethiopia will our little guy 3 months ago. So, in many ways, we are still getting to know each other, discover each other, learn about each other. It’s like we have a 3 month old, instead of a 13 month old. He still cuddles all the time, wants to be held for bottles, needs constant reassurance, and sleeps in our room at night (he has transitioned into the pack-n-play, but it’s on the bassinet setting so he can reach out and touch me.)
I just cannot image leaving Sam. Not for a couple of hours. It’s not a babysitter/stranger thing. My mother-in-law has offered many times. Sam loves his grandma and she is amazing with him. That’s not it. It’s the act of LEAVING that has me stopped, dead in my tracks.
I do understand this isn’t just an “adoption” thing or a “home 3 months” thing. I know many, many moms who have this problem: some have newborns, some have toddlers, some have school aged kids. For whatever reason, I don’t think dads have this same problem, this pull towards their children, this need to be close all the time.
So, as I understand that G and I need a date night, I cannot bring myself to actually follow through. What’s the solution? Maybe a date “afternoon” on a weekend? Maybe I could handle that. Maybe it’s the thought of him going to bed that’s hard. I’m not sure how I’m going to fix this. But I am DETERMINED to find a way.
How are you making time for your marriage?
Friday, October 9, 2009
Awesome Artichoke Salad
I don't know about you but sometimes I buy things in the store that "look yummy" but never use them. My pantry is full of canned goods and oil packed veggies that look beautiful. My friend gave me this recipe and its absolutely delicious. I think its a recipe from one of the Food Network shows. Try it out and let me know what you think...quick and easy and tastes like you got it from a deli. Deli quality at a budget friendly price.
1 (14-ounce) cans quartered artichoke hearts, drained
1/2 pound bowtie pasta, cooked and drained
1/2 cup, pitted and sliced black olives
4 sun-dried tomatoes, julienned
1 small red onion, chopped
1 garlic clove, minced
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 tablespoon red wine vinegar
2 tablespoons olive oil
1/4 cup freshly chopped parsley leaves
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
Toss all ingredients in a serving bowl and let rest, covered, in the refrigerator for at least 1 hour before serving.
Please let us know how you like it, and let us know what revisions you made!
1 (14-ounce) cans quartered artichoke hearts, drained
1/2 pound bowtie pasta, cooked and drained
1/2 cup, pitted and sliced black olives
4 sun-dried tomatoes, julienned
1 small red onion, chopped
1 garlic clove, minced
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 tablespoon red wine vinegar
2 tablespoons olive oil
1/4 cup freshly chopped parsley leaves
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
Toss all ingredients in a serving bowl and let rest, covered, in the refrigerator for at least 1 hour before serving.
Please let us know how you like it, and let us know what revisions you made!
Tuna-Cabbage Asian Salad
Since we are all so busy during the day, it's hard, if not seemingly impossible, to eat right. We all know how we should eat: less processed foods, less saturated fats, less "white" carbs, more lean protein, & fresh fruits and veggies. But unfortunately, knowing that and following through are two different things entirely. Because of this, we need to plan ahead for ourselves, just as we plan ahead for the kids. A little planning can make the difference between a gourmet salad with all the trimmings, and eating McDonalds drive-thru in the car while driving your little one to soccer practice. Believe me, we have ALL been there, but our bodies deserve better.
Although we've all tried it: Moms cannot survive on Lean Cuisine alone. It does serve a purpose, but you need FRESH in addition to FAST and HEALTHY.
Fridays are "Foodie Fridays" and will focus on FAST, nutritious recipes. Today's recipe is one of my favorite lunch salads: Tuna-Cabbage Asian Salad. I know, some of us hear cabbage and think a stinky soggy mess that has been boiled for hours on the stove. But fresh/raw cabbage is higher in nutrients and a great, crunchy alternative to traditional greens. There are just as many types of cabbage as their are types of lettuce: red, bok choy, napa, and the list goes on. At the store, I just purchase whichever is on sale that week.
For this salad you can make your own dressing (I love: sesame oil, rice wine vinegar, lite soy & raw garlic) but a grocery store bottled version is usually faster and just as tasty. Just make sure it's a low fat/low sugar dressing. You could also make a larger version of this salad and have a dinner with the whole family.
Tuna-Cabbage Asian Salad
for 1 large serving:
Ingredients
1 can tuna in water/drained
approx 1/2 cup coarse-chopped cabbage, any type
1/2 peeled cucumber, cubed or slices thick
1/4 raw green, yellow or red bell pepper, sliced or cubed
1 t. raw ginger, grated (optional)
1/2 t. raw garlic, grated (optional)
Asian dressing (bottled or homemade)
Sesame seed for garnish
Assemble all but the dressing the night before in an airtight container, and store in the fridge. In the AM, add the dressing and sesame seeds and shake in the same airtight container. The flavors will meld nicely by noontime.
Although we've all tried it: Moms cannot survive on Lean Cuisine alone. It does serve a purpose, but you need FRESH in addition to FAST and HEALTHY.
Fridays are "Foodie Fridays" and will focus on FAST, nutritious recipes. Today's recipe is one of my favorite lunch salads: Tuna-Cabbage Asian Salad. I know, some of us hear cabbage and think a stinky soggy mess that has been boiled for hours on the stove. But fresh/raw cabbage is higher in nutrients and a great, crunchy alternative to traditional greens. There are just as many types of cabbage as their are types of lettuce: red, bok choy, napa, and the list goes on. At the store, I just purchase whichever is on sale that week.
For this salad you can make your own dressing (I love: sesame oil, rice wine vinegar, lite soy & raw garlic) but a grocery store bottled version is usually faster and just as tasty. Just make sure it's a low fat/low sugar dressing. You could also make a larger version of this salad and have a dinner with the whole family.
Tuna-Cabbage Asian Salad
for 1 large serving:
Ingredients
1 can tuna in water/drained
approx 1/2 cup coarse-chopped cabbage, any type
1/2 peeled cucumber, cubed or slices thick
1/4 raw green, yellow or red bell pepper, sliced or cubed
1 t. raw ginger, grated (optional)
1/2 t. raw garlic, grated (optional)
Asian dressing (bottled or homemade)
Sesame seed for garnish
Assemble all but the dressing the night before in an airtight container, and store in the fridge. In the AM, add the dressing and sesame seeds and shake in the same airtight container. The flavors will meld nicely by noontime.
Thursday, October 8, 2009
The guilt of no guilt
After 2 1/2 wonderful and amazing months with my baby, I returned to work.
FULL TIME. I adjusted my work hours so I would have 2 guaranteed hours with Sam at night before I put him down to bed. But still...that's not enough.
I thought going back to work would be the hardest thing I would ever do in life.
I was wrong.
I actually don't mind it.
I think I'm a better mom because I work outside of the house full time. Sam is at home with daddy and they do great together. I think I'm a better wife/partner to G because I work outside of the house full time as well.
So where is the guilt?
I have GUILT over not having guilt.
I "got over" being at work after the first week. I call home & get updates. G sends me pictures and movies via the phone. I don't really feel like I'm missing anything (other than battles at nap time.) Sam is EXCITED every night to see me; they pick me up at the train station. We have amazing play time each night and a great bedtime routine.
I feel like I SHOULD be miserable and feel overwhelming guilt for not being home with my child. But I guess the intellectual knowledge that this is best for our family (I make more than my husband so it just made sense) has overridden my emotions on this issue.
Are there issues regarding your children or husband that you THINK you should feel guilty about but don't?
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Workout Wednesday: Meditation
Meditation.
When many hear that word they think of a specific religion (Buddhism, Hinduism, Jainism) or of "new age" crystals and uncomfortable yoga positions.
But meditation is so much more. It's exercise for your mind. It's realizing and celebrating the connection between mind and body. Meditation can help reduce stress, lower blood pressure, lower cholesterol, lower the severity of respiratory illness, aid in the treatment of depression and anxiety, and so much more.
Meditation is about breathing. It's about letting go of the stress and strain of our everyday lives. As moms, we have more stress than most others out there. Our lives are not about just US or even just US and our partner anymore. Our lives revolve around little bodies who need us for EVERYTHING. Or bigger bodies who need our guidance, money, and the keys to the car.
Working out at the gym is GREAT for your body. But it's only part of the overall physical health picture. A healthy body needs a healthy mind, and a healthy mind aids in the physical body's ability to GET and STAY healthy.
How do I know this? I was diagnosed with a degenerative neurological disease in May of 2003. My particular disease was not well understood at the time. But certain facts had to be faced: loss of mobility of my right arm, changes to my bones & muscles, burning intractable pain, spread of the disease to my other limbs, and eventually the inability to continue working. My specialist said that meditation, breathing techniques and visualization had shown some positive results in neurologic studies. These studies did not focus on my particular disease, but he thought I should give it a try.
So I did. I researched on the web, got some books on basic meditation, and signed up for a "Meditation 101" class at a local Buddhist center. After the very first class, I felt more centered, more in control of my mind and body. I learned I didn't have to be in a lotus position on the floor to meditate. I could do it in a comfortable chair or even lying on my bed. I learned to concentrate and slow my breathing. I learned to visualize positive things inside my body: healing on a cellular level. I learned to lower my blood pressure, respiratory and heart rate. I learned to ESCAPE MY PHYSICAL PAIN. In fact, over the next 2 years, my husband and specialist were AMAZED at my focus, decreased pain, lower blood pressure, lower heart and respiratory rate. During hospitalization after hospitalization, nurses would check and recheck my vital signs, in disbelief.
I have since learned how to visual on a deeper level, how to transend my body and experience my mind more fully. To "quiet" my mind to better "listen" to my body.
There are all different types of meditation. Some meditate with prayer, finding the quiet and calm a better way to commune with their god. Others meditate during/after yoga, to experience a deeper sense of relaxation. Others meditate with breathing exercises to open the lungs.
Now, sit down in a comfortable place. Lower the lights. Light a candle. Close your eyes. And BREATHE. Just breathe. Concentrate on the in-breath and the out-breath. If you find your mind a flurry of activity and thoughts, then count to 10 backwards and forwards while working on your breathing. You'll notice that those thoughts just melt away. You don't have to do this for long...maybe 5-10 minutes. After a while, you'll meditate for longer or more frequently throughout the day. I find it particularly helpful during a really stressful/busy day at work. I sit at my desk, close my eyes and forget about everything I'm supposed to be doing. I take a moment for ME.
Oh, and the happy ending to the degenerative neurological disease? In 2008 I went into remission. No symptoms. No pain. Only health. My doctor cannot explain it. No medical answers. If you don't go into remission within the first year...you don't go into remission. At least there are no reported cases. Until mine.
Was it the meditation? I cannot say for sure. But I wouldn't underestimate the power of the mind-body connection. Not for a minute.
When many hear that word they think of a specific religion (Buddhism, Hinduism, Jainism) or of "new age" crystals and uncomfortable yoga positions.
But meditation is so much more. It's exercise for your mind. It's realizing and celebrating the connection between mind and body. Meditation can help reduce stress, lower blood pressure, lower cholesterol, lower the severity of respiratory illness, aid in the treatment of depression and anxiety, and so much more.
Meditation is about breathing. It's about letting go of the stress and strain of our everyday lives. As moms, we have more stress than most others out there. Our lives are not about just US or even just US and our partner anymore. Our lives revolve around little bodies who need us for EVERYTHING. Or bigger bodies who need our guidance, money, and the keys to the car.
Working out at the gym is GREAT for your body. But it's only part of the overall physical health picture. A healthy body needs a healthy mind, and a healthy mind aids in the physical body's ability to GET and STAY healthy.
How do I know this? I was diagnosed with a degenerative neurological disease in May of 2003. My particular disease was not well understood at the time. But certain facts had to be faced: loss of mobility of my right arm, changes to my bones & muscles, burning intractable pain, spread of the disease to my other limbs, and eventually the inability to continue working. My specialist said that meditation, breathing techniques and visualization had shown some positive results in neurologic studies. These studies did not focus on my particular disease, but he thought I should give it a try.
So I did. I researched on the web, got some books on basic meditation, and signed up for a "Meditation 101" class at a local Buddhist center. After the very first class, I felt more centered, more in control of my mind and body. I learned I didn't have to be in a lotus position on the floor to meditate. I could do it in a comfortable chair or even lying on my bed. I learned to concentrate and slow my breathing. I learned to visualize positive things inside my body: healing on a cellular level. I learned to lower my blood pressure, respiratory and heart rate. I learned to ESCAPE MY PHYSICAL PAIN. In fact, over the next 2 years, my husband and specialist were AMAZED at my focus, decreased pain, lower blood pressure, lower heart and respiratory rate. During hospitalization after hospitalization, nurses would check and recheck my vital signs, in disbelief.
I have since learned how to visual on a deeper level, how to transend my body and experience my mind more fully. To "quiet" my mind to better "listen" to my body.
There are all different types of meditation. Some meditate with prayer, finding the quiet and calm a better way to commune with their god. Others meditate during/after yoga, to experience a deeper sense of relaxation. Others meditate with breathing exercises to open the lungs.
Now, sit down in a comfortable place. Lower the lights. Light a candle. Close your eyes. And BREATHE. Just breathe. Concentrate on the in-breath and the out-breath. If you find your mind a flurry of activity and thoughts, then count to 10 backwards and forwards while working on your breathing. You'll notice that those thoughts just melt away. You don't have to do this for long...maybe 5-10 minutes. After a while, you'll meditate for longer or more frequently throughout the day. I find it particularly helpful during a really stressful/busy day at work. I sit at my desk, close my eyes and forget about everything I'm supposed to be doing. I take a moment for ME.
Oh, and the happy ending to the degenerative neurological disease? In 2008 I went into remission. No symptoms. No pain. Only health. My doctor cannot explain it. No medical answers. If you don't go into remission within the first year...you don't go into remission. At least there are no reported cases. Until mine.
Was it the meditation? I cannot say for sure. But I wouldn't underestimate the power of the mind-body connection. Not for a minute.
Getting in Shape
Last week I was given the Ok by my doctor to start exercising again. It drove me absolutely crazy that I couldn't do any physical activity during my last pregnancy. I was considered "high risk" due to my age, previous miscarriage, and being on blood thinners. What I was allowed to do during my pregnancy was walk, at a snails pace, and swim if I wanted. Neither was too appealing to me as I LOVE to workout and working out means breaking a sweat. I have been working out at home to the POWER 90 series for the last week and I must say that it is kicking my butt. I am sore, I am tired but it feels good to be moving, to feel the burn.
Strangely enough, I was back to my pre-pregnancy weight in only 4 weeks after my son was born. This was absolutely miraculous as it took me 2 years to get back in shape after each of my daughters was born. The only difference this time is that my son nurses like crazy, round the clock ,which burns up like a billion calories a day. Also, I haven't been eating or sleeping like I should due to the fact that I have 2 other children at home that need my attention. It's a busy household and eating means that I get whatever is left on one of the kids plates and getting sleep isn't even in my plans as the baby nurses every couple of hours and my 4 year old has regressed and wakes up thru the night.
So here is my plan:
1.To eat like a normal person, at least 3 meals a day with a goal of 5 small meals a day.
2.To include some kind of physical activity daily
3. To stay off of the scale and measure my success by how my clothing fits
4. To get rid of all of the wobbly places on my body!
5. To make healthy food choices and enjoy my meals
6.To never feel guilty for eating something that I enjoy
How did you get back into shape after having children? how long did it take to get back to your pre-pregnancy weight?
Strangely enough, I was back to my pre-pregnancy weight in only 4 weeks after my son was born. This was absolutely miraculous as it took me 2 years to get back in shape after each of my daughters was born. The only difference this time is that my son nurses like crazy, round the clock ,which burns up like a billion calories a day. Also, I haven't been eating or sleeping like I should due to the fact that I have 2 other children at home that need my attention. It's a busy household and eating means that I get whatever is left on one of the kids plates and getting sleep isn't even in my plans as the baby nurses every couple of hours and my 4 year old has regressed and wakes up thru the night.
So here is my plan:
1.To eat like a normal person, at least 3 meals a day with a goal of 5 small meals a day.
2.To include some kind of physical activity daily
3. To stay off of the scale and measure my success by how my clothing fits
4. To get rid of all of the wobbly places on my body!
5. To make healthy food choices and enjoy my meals
6.To never feel guilty for eating something that I enjoy
How did you get back into shape after having children? how long did it take to get back to your pre-pregnancy weight?
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
I think I got "The Eye"
Lately I've been feeling, well FRUMPY.
I think this has been going on since I left for Ethiopia. I took mostly uber-comfy (ie: not cute) clothing in-country. I didn't do my hair or even mess with makeup most days because I was busy trying to find my groove with a 10 month old. My cell phone was dying and I forgot my watch so I never really knew what time it was and subsequently always felt rushed. Oh, and let's not forget the fact that from October '08 -- June '09 I gained approximately 40 lbs of "paper pregnancy" weight. When I lost 55 lbs from January -- July '08 (while training for the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer marathon), I threw out all my "fat" clothes, so the pickins were slim for my trip to Ethiopia. I felt fat and BLAH and FRUMPY. I came home with a new child, and continued to feel that way. When I was on maternity leave I routinely didn't get showered/changed out of PJs until around 12 noon. I cancelled several hair appointments because I either didn't have the time or didn't want to spend the money. I continued to eat for convenience, not health. I wasn't getting any exercise: those thoughts of long walks through the forrest preserve with the jogging stroller DID NOT materialize.
Then, I had to go back to work. I had to scramble and find some appropriate clothing THAT FIT, and get my hair done and at least file my nails, and slap on some makeup.
Then, we started this blog and I thought "holy cow Ms. Frumpy-Dumpy! you are asking other mothers to find their inner HOTmama but WHAT are you doing about it??"
So, I have been trying to remember those tips I got when I went for a "make-over" at Bare Minerals last November. I have actually put on eyeliner for 3 days in a row! I have made an effort with my hair (which I'm growing out and HATE but still...) And I'm wearing clothing that FITS. Doesn't matter that it's an entire size LARGER than I was wearing a couple months ago. Doesn't matter that it's about 3 sizes larger than I was wearing this time last year. Clothing that fits ALWAYS looks better than clothing that is too snug.
Which brings me to today.
My hair cooperated, despite the 70% humidity. I put on smokey eyeshadow and a hint of blush and some shear gloss. I dressed in a new pair (thank you Target!) of trousers that I think are pretty hot, and a 3/4 sleeve forrest green top with detailing at the neckline which looks pretty cute. I wore my favorite earrings, and some tri-colored suede pumps. I finished with one of the scarves I got in Ethiopia ... it coordinates well with my fall jacket. I was looking good. I was feeling good. I went to court for some hearings. while walking back to my car, a tall, dark, attractive man looked my way, raised an eyebrow and smiled. I smiled back. I then checked to see if their was food in my teeth/coffee on my jacket/ gum on my shoes or anything else that would have caused his reaction. But there wasn't. He must have JUST BEEN SMILING AT ME. He MUST HAVE BEEN GIVING ME "THE EYE"!!
This is not something that happens to me often, but I must admit it really gave me a much-needed confidence boost today.
What happened this past week to give you a confidence boost??
I think this has been going on since I left for Ethiopia. I took mostly uber-comfy (ie: not cute) clothing in-country. I didn't do my hair or even mess with makeup most days because I was busy trying to find my groove with a 10 month old. My cell phone was dying and I forgot my watch so I never really knew what time it was and subsequently always felt rushed. Oh, and let's not forget the fact that from October '08 -- June '09 I gained approximately 40 lbs of "paper pregnancy" weight. When I lost 55 lbs from January -- July '08 (while training for the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer marathon), I threw out all my "fat" clothes, so the pickins were slim for my trip to Ethiopia. I felt fat and BLAH and FRUMPY. I came home with a new child, and continued to feel that way. When I was on maternity leave I routinely didn't get showered/changed out of PJs until around 12 noon. I cancelled several hair appointments because I either didn't have the time or didn't want to spend the money. I continued to eat for convenience, not health. I wasn't getting any exercise: those thoughts of long walks through the forrest preserve with the jogging stroller DID NOT materialize.
Then, I had to go back to work. I had to scramble and find some appropriate clothing THAT FIT, and get my hair done and at least file my nails, and slap on some makeup.
Then, we started this blog and I thought "holy cow Ms. Frumpy-Dumpy! you are asking other mothers to find their inner HOTmama but WHAT are you doing about it??"
So, I have been trying to remember those tips I got when I went for a "make-over" at Bare Minerals last November. I have actually put on eyeliner for 3 days in a row! I have made an effort with my hair (which I'm growing out and HATE but still...) And I'm wearing clothing that FITS. Doesn't matter that it's an entire size LARGER than I was wearing a couple months ago. Doesn't matter that it's about 3 sizes larger than I was wearing this time last year. Clothing that fits ALWAYS looks better than clothing that is too snug.
Which brings me to today.
My hair cooperated, despite the 70% humidity. I put on smokey eyeshadow and a hint of blush and some shear gloss. I dressed in a new pair (thank you Target!) of trousers that I think are pretty hot, and a 3/4 sleeve forrest green top with detailing at the neckline which looks pretty cute. I wore my favorite earrings, and some tri-colored suede pumps. I finished with one of the scarves I got in Ethiopia ... it coordinates well with my fall jacket. I was looking good. I was feeling good. I went to court for some hearings. while walking back to my car, a tall, dark, attractive man looked my way, raised an eyebrow and smiled. I smiled back. I then checked to see if their was food in my teeth/coffee on my jacket/ gum on my shoes or anything else that would have caused his reaction. But there wasn't. He must have JUST BEEN SMILING AT ME. He MUST HAVE BEEN GIVING ME "THE EYE"!!
This is not something that happens to me often, but I must admit it really gave me a much-needed confidence boost today.
What happened this past week to give you a confidence boost??
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